On today’s episode, Wendy & Terry discuss the idea that mistakes can be a beautiful opportunity to learn. This episode focuses on how to shift our mindset away from mistakes being shameful, and instead, embracing mistakes as character builders.
Specifically, Wendy & Terry touch on three elements of this idea that will speak to parents who need encouragement when it comes to making mistakes of their own or teaching their children through mistakes:
- Guilt vs. Shame
- Brene Brown has found guilt to be adaptive and helpful. She states, “It’s holding something we’ve done, or failed to do, up against our values and feeling psychological discomfort.”
- Brene Brown defines shame as, “the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging – something we’ve experienced, done, or failed to do makes us unworthy of connection.”
- Guilt is healthy while shame is detrimental
- Identify the opportunity when mistakes happen
- It’s an honor to coach our children & teach them life lessons instead of punishing them for their mistakes
- Using empathy instead of shame after a mistake leads to connection & a greater chance that the lesson will be taken to heart
- Get curious & creative with your kids when they make mistakes & always assume their integrity instead of jumping to conclusions
- Decide upon a teaching strategy
- Educate yourself on compassionate discipline vs. fear, force, bribery & rewards
- Use critical & creative thinking to design how you want to teach ahead of time instead of reacting in the moment
- Four R’s of Discipline: teaches responsibility, related to the mistake, reasonable & respectful
Mentioned in this Episode:
- Fresh Start Family Online
- Fresh Start Experience – parenting education & support program
- Your Infinite Life Training & Coaching Program
- On Instagram: @yourinfinitelife
- On Facebook: Your Infinite Life Training & Coaching Program
- FSF Show Episode 1
- Brene Brown Shame v. Guilt
- Netflix Special: The Call to Courage
- FREE Power Struggles Masterclass
- Redirecting Children’s Behavior book by Kathryn Kvols
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